hmm...this is difficult. Well I think the only way that a loving God can 'ignore' someone is if the person's nature is so opposite to His that they just can't be 'reconciled'...it also depends on whether there is a 'final' Judgement or just an 'inspection'. 'Ignored' doesn't necessarily mean 'forgotten', but just finally left alone because they would never come back to God...remember that God is thought to be outside time, and can 'observe' the future.
Also, perhaps people in hell are like those people in 'Great Divorce', they just can't see anything except their own point of view. No matter how much you try, they just don't understand or want heaven.
Of course, it is a much more comforting idea to think that they are still given more chances, and perhaps they are, but what happens if the people are so enslaved by evil they don't see or take the chances? I do believe that God is loving and perfectly good, but I don't see how such people can be 'fixed' without taking away free will.
Yes, good is stronger than evil, and God is more powerful than the devil, but what happens when the human will is so enslaved that it sees nothing else? Like again, in Great Divorce (well of course Lewis didn't know how heaven and hell look like etc but it's still an idea):
(conversation between Lewis and George MacDonald in heaven, in a dream, after MacDonald says that hell is smaller than one atom of heaven)
"...a damned soul is nearly nothing: it is shrunk, shut up in itself. Good beats upon the damned incessantly as sound waves beat on the ears of the deaf, but they cannot receive it. Their fists are clenched, their teeth are clenched, their eyes fast shut. First they will not, in the end they cannot, open their hands for gifts, or their mouth for food, or their eyes to see".
"Then no one can ever reach them?"
"Only the Greatest of all can make Himself small enough to enter hell. For the higher a thing is, the lower it can descend--a man can sympathize with a horse but a horse can not sympathize with a rat. Only One has descended into hell."
"And will He ever do so again?"
"It was not once long ago that He did it. Time does not work that way when once ye have left the earth. All moments that have been or shall be were, or are, present in the moment of His descending. There is no spirit in prison to Whom He did not preach."
"And some hear Him?"
"Aye".
Something like that....
There is another point: I haven't read Revelations for a while, but I seem to recall that in one part, it says that evil shall be finally 'destroyed' (maybe I'm just making this up..I'll look it up). But then, it says that people go to hell.
I guess I should go look it up.